Have you a time in your life when you needed a friend in a desperate way and there’s none to be found?  I understand,  me too.  Helping others is no guarantee  that help will be there for you when you need it.  That’s why life coaching yourself  from within is of utmost importance.  Even if there is another around, not always does a “word fitly spoken”  happen.  No one knows the inner concerns of your heart.  How could they?  Not to mention it would seem way too much weight to put on a friend.  Only God knows the thoughts and intents of the heart and He is the only one that knows the answers in true totality.  So here’s some key points to keep in mind when needing a helping word of advice.  Get your self  in a quiet peaceful place. Become humble to accept help.  Be meek to receive direction from the heavenly Father who knows how to handle all things for the best outcome for you and your surrounding life concerns.  Then ask.  Be specific. Stick to the subject that you need direction with.  Write down points that matter in regards to your need for understanding.  The more specific you are the clearer your answers will be and the less room for error.  Think of it like using a bow and arrow.  The mechanics of lifting and holding up the weight of the bow, which is in of itself can be challenging because they can sometimes weigh as much as 20-40 pounds, drawing back the arrow with the pull and the resistance of the string of the bow you stabilize the arrow so that there’s no wobbling all the while focusing on the target. Not getting distracted from noises or peripheral movement which can cause a miss of the target you close one eye to have single vision and let go.  It’s a miss.  Do you stop there?   No, you go for another arrow only to go through the same process again and again to hit the target you are aiming at.  Over and over you do this till hitting the target is the only vision you have.  This is much like life coaching from within.  You are the only one shooting for the target of the success you wish to accomplish.  The only one who knows you best is your Creator.  He has chosen to father you through this life.  Your victory is His victory.  I can just hear Him saying now, “ bulls eye” , “good job” , “well done”.  So pick up that pen and paper or peck that keyboard and define the target your aiming for and release the “arrow” of focuse  to hit the mark your aiming for.  “Peace on earth and good will toward man” is still the message echoing in the heavens sent from God above.

The primary muscle for breathing is the diaphragm.  To inhale the diaphragm is pulled down from its relaxed domed shape in the bottom of the ribcage.  As it flattens it pulls on the ribcage and causes a change in volume inside the ribcage.  This creates an air pressure change and vacuum.  The vacuum sucks air in from the outside to equalize the inner and outer pressure.  The more change in volume of the ribcage the more breath will be drawn in.  This means the greater the movement and opening of the ribcage the more air can be drawn in.    When breath cannot get into the lower belly there is a tendency to be over emotional.  It is as if the emotions cannot be grounded and they stay up in the chest cavity to reverberate and intensify.  By breathing deep our energy is balanced and thus our emotions.  Stress is released by effective breathing and will balance out excessive mental energy.  In spiritual practices it is said that there are two wings to the bird that takes us on the journey from delusion to Truth.  One wing is the Grace of God; the other is self-effort.  Willingness is said to be the key.  God is always there. Love is always there.  We just need to be willing to receive. The breathe is the life force that creates and sustains our physical and subtle aspects.

The easiest way to connect with truth and avoid delusions of the mind is through the breath. So take a deep inhale in and receive the consciousness of the breath.  

More than 200,000 Americans experience some form of depression 3 days out of every month. Women and teenagers are more likely to experience these symptoms and underweight women even more likely.

Individuals in today’s society are inundated by environmental noise from all sides – noise that clouds out their goals, desires, and strengths.  Self-awareness about who you are and why you make the decisions you make is the single most important path to happiness you can find.

Negative self-talk is a rat in your internal thinking. The rat sneaks onto  your thought pattern confusing your senses and sending a false sense of satisfaction to your brain, strengthening with each nibble. The key to stopping negative self-talk, is to catch the rat before it reaches the “I believe therfore I am” place.
Fear limits your personal growth and distracts you from achieving success. It draws upon your most frightening and humiliating experiences and creates illusions of your future based on those experiences. These illusions will only stunt your growth. To avoid them, recognize your fear and overcome it.

No focus, self confidence, and lacking self awareness are just symptoms of depression.  Feeling that life Has no purpose and  going through the motions.
Depression causes physical symptoms (things like headaches or other stress-related problems) .

Five ways to start your healing of depression:

Exercise – Take a 15- to 30-minute brisk walk every day
Nurture yourself with good nutrition.   Depression does affect appetite.
Identify troubles.  Try to identify any situations that have contributed to your depression.
Express yourself. With depression, a person’s creativity and sense of fun may seem hindered.
Look on the bright side. Depression can make everything seem negative and hopeless.

Consider your strengths, gifts, and blessings. Most of all, don’t forget to be patient with yourself. Depression takes time to heal.

Remember there’s no one like you. You are special since time begain there’s never been one such as you are.  The way you walk the way you talk.  The colors only you see in the life around you.  You are special.

The great part of life coaching is that it improves social, networking and life coping skills to the maximum. A life coach can help you lead a fulfilling life with concrete and clear attainable goals. A life coach reaches deep into your inner voice to understand your desires, goals and expectations in relationships. Life coaches work on a one to one person connectivity model, which helps in clearly defining basic needs. Your life coach will use your existing conditions and situation to model and chart a plan for the future. Life coaching experts set about creating phase based goal benchmarks to enhance your life and create maximum value addition.

  The way that you move your body and walk has an enormous effect on the way that you feel and your confidence levels.

 The way you walk and move you body has a great effect on the way that you feel and can affect your confidence level.

 You know, how you feel at any moment in time is linked to what is going on in your head and how you are moving your body.

 How you feel at any given moment is associated with what’s going on in you mind and is reflected in your body movements.

 The way that you move sends subconscious messages to your mind and this either helps or hinder the way that you feel.

 Subconscious messages are sent to your mind via the way you move that either help or hinder the way you feel.

 Keeping a smile on your face is the best body language you can have.

Smile lots today!

No turkey for me this year,  you see my two most things I am thankful for just left and I wont see them on this Thanksgiving holiday but in my heart, oh yes, in my heart they will be closer than my very breathe.  I will sit and recollect their sweet smiles saying “I love you mom”, the little jiggy dances they do in the middle of trying to get them ready for school, and their exploring little faces that make my day new and sweet every day of the year.  I don’t need to get “caught up” on the things I’m thankful for because it’s in each and every day I’m thankful for my sweet Ben and Max.  Yes, sometime things of the past catch up with you, and can cast a shadow of doubt, but with a thankful heart “all is well”. 

In the “First Thanksgiving Proclamation” given by George Washington on Oct. 3, 1789 it reads…..

“Whereas it is the duty of all nations to acknowledge the providence of Almighty God, to obey His will, to be grateful for His benefits, and to humbly implore His protection and favor and whereas both house of Congress have by their joint committee requested me to recommend to the people of the United States a day of public thanksgiving and prayer to be observed by acknowledging with grateful hearts, the many signal favors of Almighty God especially by affording them an opportunity peaceably to establish a form of government for their safety an happiness.

Now, therefore, I do recommend and assign Thursday the 26th day of November next to be devoted by the people of these states to the service of that great and glorious Being, who is the beneficent author of all the good that was, that is or will be… And also that we may then unite in most humbly offering our prayers and supplications to the Great Lord and Ruler of nations and beseech Him to pardon our national and other transgressions….To protect and guide all sovereigns and nations – to promote the knowledge and practice of true religion and virtue, and the increase of science among them and us – and generally to grant unto all mankind such a degree of temporal prosperity as He alone knows to be best.”

This standard alone is reason to be thankful.

God Bless our families ….and God bless America….and God bless you.

 Let’s do our duty this day to give thanks …”to promote the knowledge and practise of true religion and virture, and the increase of science among them and us – and to grant unto all mankind such a degree of temporal prospertiy as He alone knows to be best.”    

1John 3:16,17:  Hereby pereive we the love of God(agape’) because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoso hath this worlds goods and seeth his brother have need, and shut his bowels of compassion for him, how dwelleth the love of God in him.

 Are we willing to be “thankful”  “and “unite in most humbling offering our prayers and supplications to the great Lord and Ruler of nations and beseech Him to pardon our national and other transgressions…..”  for justice and liberty for all? Let’s be thankful together this day.

 1. Smile a lot more. Smile when you when you meet people. Be happy even if you’re not feeling that way. Act like your happy and you will become happy.  The same with love, act like your in love and you will be in love.

 2. Learn from the past; don’t beat yourself up about it.  Instead learn from it for next time. Events can and do resurface.

 3. Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, get to it. If you fail to plan you DO plan, only it’s to fail.  You deserve better.  Get busy planning your success.

 4. Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities at every opportunity – because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it and have more confidence. Focus more on your long suites and the short comings matter less.

 5. Be positive. Look on the “can do” side of things rather than the “can’t do”. You’ve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.  It’s said there’s no “I” in team but there is in WIN.  Have a winning spirit and keep a “can do attitude.

 6. Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought? It’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re probably asking a negative question. Change the questions to be  positive.

 7. Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and say “is this really important in the grand scheme of things?”  Feelings come and go but thoughts establish our actions. Be aggressive about controlling the thought patterns you have each day.

 8. At the end of each day list your achievements and successes throughout that day. 

 9. Emotion is created by motion. Make sure you move around consistently. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around you body – it makes you feel better and more confident.

 10. And finally – You only live once, so any time that you are down just ask yourself “in 10 or 20 years time – will what I am worrying about really matter?”.

There are two ways of facing difficulties.  You either change or alter the difficulty or you can alter yourself to be able to deal with it.  Deal with difficulties correctly and it will enhance your confidence, deal with them incorrectly and they can do some serious damage to your self worth.

When you are faced with any setback your ability to deal with it can be turned around into a position of strength by asking yourself positive empowering questions.

What new empowering questions could you ask yourself to give some better answers?

Write these down now and make them a habit.